At this age, the concept of boundaries goes from a concrete concept about safety and rules to a more abstract concept about non-physical boundaries as the brain develops. Having discussions about the rules of relationships is really important at this stage and can include rules about touch and safety but should also include rules about respect, empathy, and personal advocacy. Being kind does not mean that your child needs to always say yes to everyone else or put the needs of other’s before theirs. Advocacy and positive conflict management are key tools to teaching elementary school kids so as to help them get their needs met as well as tolerate conflict that can occur when they say no to someone else. Helping your child tolerate rejection is just as important as helping them learn how to say no. It can hurt when someone says no to you, but that does not mean that they can use power or aggression to get their way. Rules about positive conflict management include acknowledging the conflict, seeing the other’s point of view, engaging in emotional regulation and being able to compromise. Modeling these tricks can help your child learn healthy ways to set boundaries.
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