Based on denial or a disconnect from our truth; when we are out of touch with our real thoughts, feelings, beliefs. (Society places value on altruism, but be careful that you are aligned with what is true for you).
This is often more aligned with our truth than Level 1, even though it seems harsher. (A pitfall to watch out for here is when you have strong negative emotions about someone or something, these can blind you from awareness of your deeper truth which is often more forgiving).
Level 3 might take place when we are self-motivated for personal gain; we are aware that we really are not forgiving them, e.g., “I’m really not forgiving them, but it serves my best interest to act like I am.” (A common pitfall here is negatively self-judging).
“I don’t really forgive them, but I see how important it is to them to receive my forgiveness. I care about them and want to help them.”
Our mastery of identifying and then living with integrity is the only way we can truly teach it to our children. Our words have little long-lasting meaning to them; rather how we live and model integrity is what they will become.