24/7 our children are faced with pressure these days. From friends, family, social media, school, TV and perhaps subconsciously from idols they look up to. The need to fit in, be accepted and feel worthy for teens today is associated with what you do or what you have. That can be labeled by drugs, sports, grades, sex or material items.
Part of me feels sad to have witnessed the challenges my kids have gone through and deal with. Watching friends they grew up with go down a rocky road with drugs and sex. They’re left feeling that they don’t fit. They think this because their morals aren’t in line with the company they keep.
As parents, are we supposed to dictate who our children associate with? Or do we sit back and allow them to navigate through it all? I’ll tell you, it isn’t easy to sit back. But it doesn’t mean that you don’t give your children the guidance and help to understand the consequences.
“Don’t let your hay day happen in high school,” It is true, with Facebook today, you won’t have to wait for a high school reunion to see how it all turns out.
The struggle with having to deal with athletic and academic pressure, both parents and peers contribute to. The pressure to have the latest fashions, the coolest cars, the best college acceptance—when does it stop? Or does it? Does it just transpire over to careers, cars, houses or bank accounts?!
As parents, we have to instill a foundation for our children that is more focused on who they are, not what they do or what they have. I believe that when a child believes in themselves and what they want for them and their life, they have a strong support system that can resist any pressure they’re faced with. I have witnessed this with my oldest son.
But it takes time—your time to teach them and to model for them. Being a parent is easy. Parenting is what’s hard. But if you do it the best you can, you can help your child’s journey be less rocky.
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